Things to be considered before breaking up with your partner
1.Why do I want to break up with this person?
Simply because this is what everyone will ask you afterwards.
Your friends, your family and everyone who knew you both as
a couple.
You have to first sit and answer the question by yourself. How
logical, reasonable or convincing do you sound to yourself?
Is there a way to work out the issues you are
facing?
You just can’t break up and leave a relationship without trying
to fix the problems that you are being confronted with.
You have to really consider ways to reach a resolution, or
some sort of agreement with your partner on how to get the
relationship on its feet.
Ask yourself, have I exhausted all my options? Is a breakup
indeed the last option for me?
2.Will I regret the decision?
Right before you break the bad news to them, you might feel
reluctant. And even after, you may feel bad for ending things.
And it’s just normal.
So you need to consider if you will live for a long, long time
regretting the decision to split from the love of your life.
If you genuinely know that regret is sure after this breakup,
you might want to cancel the idea.
What will life be like post-breakup?
Imagining your day-to-day without the person you’re used to
seeing 24/7 will no doubt be heartbreaking.
Maybe the thought might make you reconsider breaking up.
3.How should I do it?
Even if you are going to leave them after all these
considerations, you must still try to be humane about it.
So, ask yourself how you want to make it happen.
It’s advisable to choose a way that will soften the blow.
What should my choice of words be?
Depending on the reason why you are even considering a
breakup in the first instance, you might want to be hurtful with
your words, or as gentle as possible. We hope you choose the
latter, though.
You want to let the other person down as gently but please be
as honest as possible and do not sugarcoat the situation.
4.To remain friends afterwards or not?
Some people never want to see their exes again, other prefer
to still remain friends with them.
Consider how you feel about them. Will it still be cool with
you to stay friends with them, or you’d never want to hear or
even come across them ever again in this lifetime?
5.What has this relationship taught you?
Leaving someone to whom you have opened the whole of
yourself might be hurtful and all that.
On the flipside, though, every person you date is a chance to
learn a little more about yourself and the things you like or do
not like in a partner.
So ask yourself what this relationship has taught you.